Preparing for Couples Counselling

The thought of couples counselling can seem scary and daunting to many people. Often, relationship troubles have gone on for some time and its now at a point where things are very stuck. There are many different types of couples: those that are both open to therapy, those that aren't and those whereby one person is against therapy. If you've both chosen to work on the relationship along with a counsellor, some great things can happen. Considering couples counselling can be scary, as you will be opening yourselves up and the relationship to someone you don't yet know - a counsellor. This will involve honesty, vulnerability and at times tears. Preparation can be overwhelming for many couples so I've compiled some things below that may help with preparing for couples counselling and put your minds at ease.

1. Keep an Open Mind: Be ready to explore new perspectives and approaches. Counselling is about growth and understanding, not about deciding who is right or wrong.

2. Discuss Your Goals: Before your first session, talk about what you hope to achieve. Whether it’s improving communication, resolving conflicts, or rebuilding trust, having clear goals can guide your therapy.

3. Focus on Understanding: The aim is to understand each other better and improve your relationship dynamics, not to change your partner.

4. Set Privacy Boundaries: Agree on what you’re comfortable sharing in sessions and respect each other’s boundaries.

5. Commit to the Process: Therapy can take time. Commit to attending sessions regularly and give it at least 3-6 months to see significant progress.

6. Complete Pre-Session Forms: If your therapist provides forms or questionnaires, fill them out ahead of time. This can help your therapist understand your situation better from the start.

7. Reflect After Sessions: After each session, take some time to reflect on what was discussed. This can help you process your thoughts and feelings and prepare for the next session.

8. Be Honest and Open: Effective therapy relies on honesty. Be open about your feelings, even if they are difficult to express.

9. Practice Patience: Change doesn’t happen overnight. Be patient with yourself, your partner, and the process.

10. Stay Positive: Focus on the positive aspects of your relationship and the progress you’re making. Celebrate small victories along the way.

    
    

By taking these steps into consideration, you can create a strong foundation for your counselling sessions and work towards a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.